Every Woman I Know Is Tired — We Just Cope Differently
Every woman I know is tired.
Not “I need a nap” tired. Not “busy season” tired.
I mean the kind of tired that comes from carrying too much for too long, all while being expected to show up pleasant, capable, and grateful.
And we already know how I feel about social media making women feel like they have to be something totally out of touch with reality.
2026 is the year I walk away from anyone gossiping about anyone. Don’t get me wrong — I love a little tea. But it’s just not exciting anymore. What was once a way to learn about the world has turned into a boring-ass pattern: the same miserable women talking about the same people in the same town. Nothing new.
What’s exhausting isn’t even the work itself but it’s the way we compare it.
Somewhere along the way, people started acting like their life is harder because they have something another person doesn’t have.
More kids.
Less help.
A harder job.
No partner.
A partner.
A sick parent.
A full schedule.
All of it said with zero empathy — not even for themselves.
And here’s my thing: if we actually carried empathy, we’d have it for ourselves first. We’d stop dumping our problems onto other people and start solving them instead.
Which brings me to one of my goals for 2026:
My problems are mine to solve — not mine to perform for an audience.
I learned this years ago. Telling people your problems doesn’t fix them. Most of the time, it just gives people something more to talk about. There’s rarely help on the other end of venting — just opinions, projections, or silence.
And I don’t mean this in a bitchy way. It’s just reality.
Most people can only meet you at the level they understand themselves. When they can’t relate, they don’t know how to hold space — so you end up feeling unheard and, honestly, hurt.
So this is my solution.
Less explaining.
Less comparing.
Less turning my stress into a boring ass pissing contest.
More ownership.
More empathy — inward first we deserve to be our first priority
More quiet problem-solving at home.
Not everything needs to be shared to be valid.
Some things just need to be handled.
And that, for me, is peace.
Because the truth is:
If we’re raising kids, building lives, keeping households running, trying to stay sane, trying to stay connected to ourselves — we are all experiencing the same pressure.
It just shows up differently. So maybe we can start showing up differently and change to trajectory of our children’s future.
We’re All Solving the Same Problem
We’re all trying to:
keep the wheels from falling off
make the right choices for people who depend on us
hold ourselves together long enough to cook dinner
and still find a way to love ourselves at the end of the day
That doesn’t change because your life looks different from mine.
What does change is how lonely it feels when we pretend our version is the hardest one in the room and how much better we do it because our life is harder and no one else will ever understand. I am almost convinced this is my fault that I am surrounded by these types of people and I need to make changes because this cannot be the reality of socializing of a 36 year old women. I remember my mom not having a lot of friends growing up but I never imagined this was why.
It’s rare to find women who just get it — who don’t need to compete, explain, or justify how tired they are. Women who can simply say, yeah, this is hard, and let that be enough.
I also understand that not all women get much time to just be themselves. When you’re constantly needed, rushed, or stretched thin, your self-awareness stays on the surface. You’re surviving, not reflecting. So the understanding doesn’t go very deep — not because they don’t care, but because they don’t have the space.
That’s why real understanding feels rare.
Not because women lack empathy — but because so many are exhausted just trying to keep up.
And honestly? That makes sense.
The World Isn’t Set Up for Us to Rest
We live in a world that:
rewards overextension
glorifies busy
…and the world acts like women should be able to handle more without complaint.
I think about when my kids were little — I would ask for a break, any break, and almost every time I was met with, “Get a babysitter.” Like I didn’t deserve a moment to myself unless I paid for it. And yes… that came from dads, family, and grandparents of my kids too.
That’s just reality when you’re a woman in this world.
Eventually, you stop asking for the break. You stop expecting someone else to hand it to you. You just carve your own space when you can, or you don’t — and you keep going.
We internalize all of it. And then we blame ourselves when we feel worn down.
But most of the stress? It’s not because we’re doing life “wrong.” It’s because we’re doing too much without ever grounding ourselves in what’s real.
Here’s my perspective: if you’re showing up every day, it’s okay to find better ways to rest, to stop being excessively busy for no reason, and to just… breathe.
After I started slowing down my own life, I noticed something incredible — I slowed down my kids’ nervous systems too. They’re calmer, more collected, more present than they used to be. We still have our moments, of course, but we’re all learning what it feels like not to be alone or abandoned in our own lives.
I truly believe that when we start realizing we’re here for each other — really supporting each other, without judgment — life starts falling into place. We can shape it into something calmer, something we love, something we actually look forward to.
These are my theories on raising kids, building a family, and ultimately creating a life that feels worth living. And honestly? It starts with slowing down, grounding yourself, and choosing connection over chaos.
What Grounds Me When I Hit the Bottom
When I know everything that’s wrong in my life — and trust me, I can list it — I don’t try to positive-think my way out of it.
I ground myself in what’s solid.
My wife.
My kids.
Everyone’s grounding will look different this is just what I found to be solid in my life.
Even on their or my bad days, I get to love people I’ve known their entire lives. I get to love someone who loves me back. That matters more than productivity hacks or mindset shifts. I know I get all this because I left every situation that drained me to protect my kids from feeling drained to. They depend on my emotions and if I cant align they wont be able to either.
They are my ground.
So when I hit the bottom, it isn’t lonely. We are not projecting on each other we all know we have somewhere to lean when it gets hard. I will never pretend life is easy every choice has an action good or bad, but what makes it easier having support and others that genuinely believe in you and its up to us to find who those people are.
They are my starting point for happiness — not because life is perfect, but because I know they will always be there, regardless of what the world loves to tell us about success, worth, or having it all together.
We Make Our Own Busy — And We Can Unmake It
A lot of what exhausts us isn’t forced.
It’s accumulated.
We make our own problems.
Our own stress.
Our own busy.
Not because we’re weak — but because we don’t slow down long enough to ask what actually supports us at home.
And no, I’m not talking about adding another thing to your list.
I’m talking about small, grounding choices that bring you back into your body instead of leaving you stuck in your head.
Ways to Feel Better at Home (Without Overhauling Your Life)
Touch your skin with intention. Lotion your hands, arms, or legs slowly instead of rushing through it like a task. Your nervous system responds to contact — not productivity.
Create one pause point in your day. One moment where nothing is required of you. No phone. No fixing. Just presence. I think its unwell to not be able to sit with yourself, even if your thoughts are sad feel them heal from them, or else you end up spilling them into someone else.
Stop narrating how hard your life is. Not because it isn’t hard — but because repeating it keeps you trapped in it.
Anchor yourself in what’s real. The people who know you. The ones who stay. Its easy for our mind to create delusions to keep us happy in the moment.
This is how we come back to ourselves — not through performance, but through familiarity.
A Note From My Shop
The lotions I make aren’t about luxury.
They’re about coming back into your body after the day has taken too much.
Something simple.
Something grounding.
Something that reminds you that you’re still here.
If you’re looking for a way to slow down without overthinking it, you can find them [in my shop]. They’re made for women who do a lot — and are tired of pretending they aren’t.
Every woman I know is tired.
But the ones who survive it best aren’t the ones who prove how hard their life is.
They’re the ones who know where they belong when everything feels heavy — and let that be enough.
The best kind of woman? Another woman who can sit quietly without comparing herself to anyone else. A woman who has more to talk about than just other people.
Let’s get real — there’s so much to see, so much to explore in this world. And honestly? It’s definitely not the person sitting next to you.
